To Be…. or not to Be?
There are a thousand whispers and nuances in life that we often fail to hear in our search for life and life more abundantly on this planet…
The more the searches for love becomes an occupational hazard for some, the more they seek it outside themselves…. outside validation: acknowledgement, acclaim, wishing to be completed by another, etc.
The strange thing that happens, is the more we look OUTSIDE of us, for validation, or completeness, of the filling of that void, that never-ending something, the more we will end up feeling in-complete…. un-whole…
I have found that a lot of people expect their partners to fill that hole, the emptiness and when they don’t they simply go on to the next one… until that one too, leaves the hole unfilled…. and then the next and the next…
I often ask people what they are searching for in the Love of their lives…. Now the lists come out: long lists of what they want…. and most often that list will contain somewhere:- “I want him or her to love me – so that I feel at last I am home – complete…”
The funny thing is that once the infatuation stage disappears and with it sometimes the passion, then the eyes are already on the next one, who can bring that self-same rush of adrenaline back. Casanova was a classical example… the more the merrier, and never getting enough…. Always searching… searching… searching…
What exactly IS the SEARCH all about?
I am going back to that: FEELING COMPLETE….
As long as you are looking for someone to complete you, then you are setting yourself up for disappointment. …. For the only person who can complete him or herself is: – YOU!
You cannot expect another person to make you happy, for you as about as happy as you choose to be!
The fact is, that your Creator, the Divine, CREATED YOU AS WHOLE. He/she does not create imperfections! In the greater Cosmic Whole, there are no half-made, incomplete, or flawed creations! ALL IS PERFECT, WHOLE AND COMPLETE…
So, where does this void, this whole, this longing for completeness stem from?
It mostly stems from our own beliefs IN BEING SEPARATED FROM THE DIVINE AND FROM ALL THAT IS!
The fact is that most people run away from pain – they don’t want to experience pain, and they don’t want to experience a-lone-ness, or having to path their path a-l-one.
If you go back to the moment that your soul chose to incarnate onto planet, you will see that it discussed your whole life, in fine details, with your Guardian Angels, those Beings who guide you through your life, and the Divine. Together you look at your DIVINE BLUEPRINT, which is yours, and yours alone. This of it as a kaleidoscope pattern…. it has its very own geometrical shape. That synchronizes perfectly with your SOUL NAME, AND YOUR SOUL GROUP NAME. SO THE THREE ARE IN HARMONY WITH EACH OTHER, AND TO COMPLETE THE TRIANGLE THERE IS A COMPLETE CIRCLE, THAT IS THE DIVINE MOTHER, who holds you in your womb.
You then, look AT WHAT SOUL LESSONS YOU NEED TO EXPRESS, as you UNIQUE GIFTS, TALENTS AND ABILITIES, and what lessons you wish to LEARN OR TO MASTER, and WHAT YOU WISH TO EXPERIENCE WHEN YOU HAVE INCARNATED ON PLANET EARTH, TO HONE YOUR INNER STRENGHT, ABILITIES AND SOUL EXPRESSIONS…. FOR THIS IS THE GREATEST SCHOOL THERE IS!
This Planet is one of the most popular planets to incarnate on, to hone one’s inner strengths and abilities – for IT CHALLENGES YOU TO CORE!
WHEN YOU ARE THUS BORN, TO THE PARENTS YOU CHOSE YOURSELF, (because of the soul lessons they bring you) YOU ARE PERFECTLY MADE: – YOUR WINGS ARE SHAPED PERFECTLY FOR YOU TO FLY!
It is just, that as we grow, from baby and into adulthood, we forget this, and then we wish to take on the wings of sparrows, and then wonder why we cannot master the art of flying…. when all along we have the wings of an eagle – and an eagle cannot fly with the wings of a sparrow!
In the process of growing up, we assume that other’s wish to bring us pain…. often we withdraw from this… or later on in life, we truly run from one relationship to the other, in order to find someone who will truly validate us.
The funny part of this is, that you TEND TO DRAW OR ATTRACT TO YOURSELF, SOMEONE WHO WILL BE THE OPPOSITE OF YOU AND MIRROR ALL THOSE ASPECTS OF YOURSELF BACK TO YOU THAT YOU HAVE NOT MADE PEACE WITH, OR ARE TRYING TO RUN AWAY FROM.
Sometimes, because we assume the wings of a sparrow, we are too timid to set healthy boundaries for ourselves, or too overbearing, because we demand too much….
For see, there ARE THE SOUL LESSONS that YOU CHOSE TO MASTER THIS LIFETIME, COMING TO HAUNT YOU: – THOSE DRAGONS THAT YOU ARE SO SCARED TO FACE, THAT BRING YOU PERCEIVED PAIN AND DIS-COMFORT AND STRIFE…
There is a lovely children’s film that I watched recently: “HOW TO TAME A DRAGON”…. That about says it all.
As long as we are scared of those dragons, as long as we are at-war with them, as long as we FEAR them – they will PERSIST. We can change partners as much as we like: – they will grow again and again and become BIGGER and BIGGER, UNTIL WE LEARN TO SIT DOWN AND TALK WITH THEM AND ASK THEM WHAT ARE THEY TRYING TO TEACH US!
One of the dragons we have that loves tormenting us is: IF ONLY.
IF ONLY likes your weak spot, in fact hones in on it. (Please note dragons, as I will name them, have NO GENDER. THEY MERELY ARE! So if I use HIM or HER, the TWO ARE INTERCHANGABLE FOR THEY HAVE NO GENDER!). IF ONLY likes to tell you that if you get rid of Mr. or Mrs. So and so, you will have a much more peaceful and complete life. So, you start looking over the fence…. Hmmmm…. that one looks so juicy… Hmmm…. no bad hair days…. no nagging…. no screaming….. Hmmmm, IF ONLY….
IF ONLY loves telling you, that the grass is greener on the other side…. IF ONLY has a companion called REGRET…. REGRET comes in and tells you that you should have done things this way or that way…. REGRET loves honing into all your weak or troubled spots and then in comes dragon number three: BLAME. Because, of the inherent fires the others are now blazing into Beingness, blame loves finding something or someone to blame for the pain and unhappiness: parents, siblings, spouses, governments, conspiracies, bankruptcy, war, calamities, etc.
These three love dancing in tune, and then they use their ability to stir fires and before you know it there is this raging fire deep inside of you, causing you more and more pain.
The fact is these dragons, are actually very peaceful, loving and lovable souls. All they ask of you is to sit down and talk to them. To ask them, what it is they are trying to teach you.
IF ONLY, says she is there to teach you, that the grass is not greener on the other side. IF ONLY, says she wants to show you, that all the answers to all your pain, all the questions you ever had, LIE WITHIN.
REGRET jumps up and down, and says he is there to teach you, that past is past, and gone is gone. You cannot do anything about it, except to release it, so that the past can no longer hold you chained up, but if you take out your sword and start cutting yourself free, you will find that a lot of what you regret has long served its purpose….
Now BLAME is joining the conversation: See, he/she says, the longer you go and blame everyone, the longer you will battle to set yourself free. For, know this, these people, places, events, all show up in your SOUL CHART, and the SOUL CONTRACT you made BEFORE YOU WERE BORN…. AND YOU AGREED TO IT TO HONE YOUR INNER STRENGTH… AND YOU HAVE FORGOTTEN ALL OF THAT! The longer you blame everyone, INCLUDING YOURSELF, the longer you will have all of us for company, and then made war against us…. WE DON’T WANT WAR – WE ARE TIRED OF WAR: WE WANT PEACE! WE WANT TO SPREAD OUR WINGS AND TEACH YOU TO FLY!
When all three have finally convinced you that you have let go of all of this, then Dragon number FOUR arrives: PAIN. Pain, looks fierce some….. You look at him, and you want to run away…. Yet, go and look into his eyes and you will find great love and compassion there…. FOR PAIN IS A GREAT TEACHER. HE TEACHES YOU THAT YOU DO NOT HAVE FOREVER, THE TIME IS NOW. HE TEACHES YOU THAT DEATH IS A GREAT TEACHER – IT TEACHES YOU THAT YOU HAVE ONLY SO MUCH TIME ON THIS PLANET – USE YOUR TIME TO LEARN TO UNCONDITIONALLY LOVE YOURSELF AND OTHERS. PAIN TEACHES YOU THAT THE LONGER YOU HOLD ONTO TO GRUDGES, SELF-BLAME, BLAME OTHERS, IF ONLY, AND REGRET TO LONGER YOU ARE TAKING TO HEAL AT A DEEP SOUL LEVEL AND TO MASTER YOUR LESSONS.
PAIN SERVES YOU! PAIN HONES YOUR INNER STRENGTH AND RESILIENCE. ONCE YOU LET PAIN SOOTHE YOUR SOUL WOUNDS AND HELP YOU TO HEAL, YOU CAN MOVE ON AND INTO LIFE WITH GREATHER STRENGHT, RESILIENCE, SOUL GROWTH AND THAN HELP OTHERS WHO ARE GOING THROUGH THE SAME PROCESS.
YOU CAN TEACH THEM TO CONFRONT THESE DRAGONS AND TO LEARN TO EMBRACE AND LOVE THEM FOR THEY ARE GREAT TEACHERS!
The more you learnt TO LOVE YOURSELF, TO FIND COMPLETENESS WITHIN YOURSELF, TO LOVE YOUR OWN COMPANY, AND BE HAPPY IN YOUR OWN SKIN, and AURA, IN ALL YOUR BODIES – THE MORE YOUR WINGS START GROWING … EAGLE’S WINGS AND ONE DAY YOU FIND YORSELF ABLE TO FLY LIKE AN EAGLE AND NOT LIKE A SPARROW ANY MORE!
The only thing is, and I am warning you now, it the minute that you start soaring higher and higher, the more others will start taking notice, because YOU SHINE! YOU RAISE OUT AND ABOVE ALL THE OTHERS!
So then, what happens? Guess who start appearing? Hello, Dragon number five: JEALOUSY/INSECURITY/ENVY. Lucky for you, this is not your dragon, but those who cannot stand your flying high and free…. Yet, this dragon, loves testing you…. She loves finding your resilience to keep on learning to fly higher and higher, and not be distracted nor deterred by the opinion of others, nor the arrows they tend to shoot at you. For the more you shine you light, the more your spot-light is going to fall on all the other FOUR DRAGONS IN THEIR LIVES THEY HAVE NOT MADE PEACE WITH…
So, you see: LIFE IS A NEVER-ENDING CIRCLE….. What goes around comes around…. The trick is, is to develop A NEW AND GREATER CIRCLE and then TO OURFLY THE OTHERS!
It might be a tat lonely up there, with no company…. But guess what, by you flying higher and higher, and discovering new worlds, vistas, etc. suddenly others want to follow and see for themselves…. For you are the pioneer, the trail blazer and when you allow yourself to blaze a new trail – others will follow!
Then one day, you see that there is another eagle flying with you, and you start frolicking, dancing and having a ball. And then you start talking to that eagle…. you start sharing stories, comparing notes…. and you find, that both of you had to confront the same dragons, both of you have scars to show it…. BUT FUNNILY ENOUGH YOU ARE NOW BOTH ABLE TO FLY AT THE SAME HEIGHTS AND VIBRATE AT THE SAME FREQUENCY. YOU RECOGNIZE A SOUL MATE, A KINDRED SPIRIT AND THEN, SUDDENLY, WITHOUT YOU WISHING FOR IT (FOR YOU WERE HAPPY WITH YOUR OWN COMPANY AND WITH WHO AND WHAT YOU ARE!) YOU FIND TRUE LOVE!
And you find, then that by ADDING YOUR WHOLENESS TO HIS OR HER WHOLENESS, ANOTHER CIRCLE FORMS AROUND YOU: THE CIRCLE OF AT-ONE-NESS, THE SACRED DIVINE!
THIS IS THE TRUE MEANING OF ALCHEMY AND THE ALCHEMICAL DANCE…. THE SACRED DANCE OF AT-ONE-NESS and finding the ultimate KEYS TO MASTERY – YET ONLY THE FIRST OCTAVE OF THIS!